6 Reminders for Proper Meeting Etiquette

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6 Reminders for Proper 12-Step Meeting Etiquette 

For newcomers, attending your first 12-step fellowship meeting can be stressful and somewhat overwhelming. Understanding how to conduct yourself during a meeting properly can reduce nervousness, increase comfort, and allow you to get the maximum benefit from each meeting—not just for you but for each member in the room as well. Below are guidelines for maintaining proper meeting etiquette:  

1. Respect Anonymity  

This is the golden rule of 12-step fellowships. Remember, who is seen and what is heard in the rooms must stay in the rooms. These rooms are intended to be a safe space for all who wish to live a clean and sober life to connect with like-minded individuals. Be sure to respect their confidentiality by not sharing personal or private information with others outside of the meeting. By respecting this rule, you are also playing your part to protect the integrity of the fellowship.  

2. Use “I” Statements  

When you share, keep your share centered around your personal experience. The proper way to do so is by speaking using “I” statements instead of “you.” In the rooms of a 12-step fellowship, everyone’s story is different, by following the rule of “I” you can effectively keep your share centered around your experience instead of coming across in a way that could be perceived as projecting onto others.  

3. Share Once and Share the Time  

If you decide you’d like to share, raise your hand, introduce yourself, and be sure to keep your share within the time limitations the meeting has set in place. Being mindful of your time allows other members the opportunity to share as well. If there is something you need to discuss further, express this during your share and stick around after the meeting; doing so invites group members to approach you and offer their support.  

4. Avoid Crosstalk  

At the beginning of each meeting, it’s likely you’ll hear someone read about avoiding crosstalk, but as a new member, you might not know what exactly this means. Crosstalk is the act of addressing another member’s share instead of speaking directly to the group. For everyone in the room to benefit from your share, be sure to address the group. If you hear something during another member’s share that you wish to discuss further, it’s a great idea to approach them after the meeting.  

5. Stay Seated  

Shuffling around through a crowded room can be very distracting. Try making it a habit to arrive 10-15 minutes before each meeting starts. That way, you have plenty of time to get a cup of coffee, chat with others, use the restroom, and find a comfortable seat before settling in for the duration of the meeting.  

6. Limit Cell Phone Use  

These days, we are always accessible, glued to our phones, and habitually scrolling on social media. However, to stay entirely present, hear the message, and not distract others, it’s best to keep your phone away and silent for the duration of the meeting. If you receive an important phone call that absolutely cannot wait until after the meeting, be sure to wait until the person sharing is finished before getting up and taking the call outside.  

Remember, as a newcomer, it’s perfectly normal to feel like a fish out of water, but your comfort level will increase as you continue to attend various 12-step meetings. These suggestions for proper meeting etiquette will become almost second nature.  

Importance of Following 12-Step Meeting Rules 

Adhering to the guidelines and rules of a 12-step meeting is not only a matter of respect but an essential component of the recovery process’s effectiveness. It creates a structured, safe environment where all members can focus on their recovery without distractions or discomfort. This approach has been proven through years of practice to significantly enhance the benefits of participating in these meetings. The importance of following these rules can be distilled into several key points: 

• Encourages mutual respect – Recognizing and honoring each member’s need for privacy and a safe space to share. 
• Fosters an inclusive community – Ensuring that everyone feels listened to and valued, regardless of their stage in the recovery process. 
• Enhances focus and engagement – Minimizing distractions allows participants to fully engage with the meeting content and the recovery process. 
• Promotes effective communication – Clear guidelines help avoid misunderstandings and encourage open, respectful dialogue. 
• Supports personal responsibility – Participating within the set guidelines reinforces the importance of personal responsibility in the recovery journey. 

By maintaining proper meeting etiquette, every member contributes to a supportive and positive atmosphere conducive to healing and growth. 

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