Loneliness during the holidays can be especially isolating. For those in recovery, this time of year can come with its own set of challenges.
If you’re feeling lonely this holiday season, know that there’s support waiting for you. Start by exploring virtual 12-step meetings, or, if you’re an RCA alumnus, connecting with your Alumni Coordinator. If you’re in need of a fresh start, Recovery Centers of America’s addiction treatment programs accept new patients 24/7/365, and our clinical team is equipped to handle the unique challenges that come with holiday loneliness. Your recovery is worth fighting for, no matter the time of year.
Making a Plan to Tackle Holiday Loneliness
First, know that it’s common to feel lonely even when surrounded by loved ones. You might be in a crowded room at a holiday party, but still feel disconnected and alone. In recovery, it’s important to have a plan in place for dealing with these feelings.
1. Volunteer to Help Others
Volunteering can be a great way to connect with people and shift your focus away from negative thoughts. Many organizations need extra help during the holidays, whether it’s serving meals, donating supplies, or simply offering your time. Giving back not only helps others, but it also reminds you that you are part of a larger community—and that can be incredibly comforting. In fact, this spirit of service aligns with the principles of the 12th step, encouraging you to share your experiences and give back to others as part of your own recovery journey.
2. Reach Out to Your Support Network
If you’re feeling alone, take the first step by reaching out. This could mean contacting a sponsor, an Alumni Coordinator, or friends who understand what you’re going through. Schedule check-ins during the holidays, whether in person or virtually. Sometimes, just knowing you have a call planned can help ease the loneliness.
3. Attend a Meeting or Recovery Event
Many recovery programs offer virtual support meetings, which can be incredibly helpful if you’re traveling during the holidays. You can also explore teletherapy options for more personalized support during the holidays. Holiday events organized by the recovery community, whether virtual or in person, can help you stay engaged and connected with others on the same journey.
4. Plan Activities to Look Forward To
Combat isolation by scheduling activities to look forward to. Make a list of things you enjoy—like watching a favorite movie, baking holiday treats, or going for a winter walk—and plan these into your day. Knowing you have activities lined up can help keep loneliness at bay. Remember it does not have to be a big activity, even the small ones which make you happy can fill your cup.
5. Create New Holiday Traditions for Yourself
The holidays can often be difficult if you’re missing old traditions or struggling with changes in your life. Instead of focusing on what’s missing, consider creating new holiday traditions just for you. Maybe it’s taking a long walk through your neighborhood to look at holiday lights, making a special meal, or writing a gratitude list. Creating your own traditions can help you feel grounded, provide comfort, and make the holidays something to look forward to.
Give Yourself the Gift of Self-Compassion
Remember to practice self-compassion. It’s okay to feel lonely. These feelings are natural, and you’re not alone in experiencing them. Instead of judging yourself for feeling this way, acknowledge it and take positive steps to care for yourself. The holidays can be a time to take extra care of your emotional needs, and that begins by recognizing what you’re feeling and responding with kindness.
Take the First Step Towards Connection
By reaching out, making a plan, and finding ways to connect—even if it’s virtual or through new traditions—you can ease the feelings of loneliness. The holidays are about connection, and that starts with taking steps to connect with yourself and others. Remember, there are resources and people ready to support you. Reach out, make a plan, and take it one day at a time. You’ve got this.
If you’re ready to take the courageous first step toward recovery, don’t wait. Call 833.926.5486 or reach out to RCA online to speak with our team—we’re ready to help.
